Baby Boy turns one

I can’t believe it’s already been a year! This last year has been amazing. Baby Boy has brought such a sweet and special happiness to our family.  The older kids have just fallen in love with Baby Boy, as has everyone who has had the pleasure of getting to know him!

I can’t imagine life with out him.  And I can’t really remember life before him.  What a joy he’s been and a light in our life.  A miracle and blessing!  The laughter, smiles, coo’s, pleasure, joy, etc… he shares with us is so special and he makes every day a joy to be a part of.  So much like Lego boy at this age.

He’s such a happy and joyful little man!   He loves dancing, singing, bouncing, swaying.  Music is his favorite thing, he loves  carrying around our cell phones with music playing.  His dance moves are EPIC already, he is right on the beat!  I love the way he sticks his arms out with this special bounce he has.  He spots really well when he turns too!  My sweet happy dancer!  Computer boy has always loved music like this too, and used to make up songs and sing them to my belly!

He loves playing  soccer too. It’s pretty darn cute, watching him kick the balls around.  And he’s good at it too! Our first athlete, maybe?  Maybe my dad passed on some jeans after all?  It’s one of the things he does that the older kids didn’t, and it’s pretty sweet watching his excitement as he plays with us.

In the last few weeks he’s started talking too.  He now says Mom, or Ma, Da, ta-u (thank you), Ba (ball) and other nonsensical noises that sounds like  familiar words!  He’s such a little smarty pants.  So much like his older brothers and sisters.  If he can’t find me he wanders around calling me!  He’s the first to call for me before other phrases!

He loves to share. when i go to GNO’s with swag bags he loves to hand them out to the attendee’s. He also shares toys, books, and of course food.  He doesn’t like Cheerios,  but he loves Kix. He always give up his toys to the other kids.  The older siblings, playmate or other adults!

His favorite person is his Aunt Donna, even preferring her to me most of the time.  They have a special relationship, and it tickles all of us.  He sneaks upstairs at every moment, and loves finding the door ajar!

He is also super tall, he can reach so much now, the table top, the piano, the edge of the kitchen counter, and everything on my desk. kind of a nightmare. the kitchen drawers are empty most of the time these days. Thankfully we were already childproof, so nothing TOO dangerous, we just need to remember to keep the toilet closed!

He loves sitting with his older sisters “reading” books.  His favorite is the animal book and can already growl when we read it to him.  He loves to carry around chopsticks, pencils and other sharp and dangerous items, freaking grandma out.  he loves lifting and carrying heavy things too like cans of food, pumpkins, buckets, garbage cans, etc…

Of course he loves buttons, what child doesn’t.  And the big TV button is no exception and the only time the other kids get after him is when he is constantly turning it off.  they get SO upset, about the only time they get mad at him.  We’ve tried putting boxes in front of it, but he can reach over with his long arms!

When we first told people we were expecting again some people were happy for us and some people thought we were making a huge mistake.  It was because of the aspergers, we didn’t have a diagnosis when we had the other children. To get pregnant knowing this baby would most like be aspergers too bothered some people.

I was asked how could I purposefully bring a handicapped child into the world.  The thing is I don’t believe asperger’s is a handicap.  It has it’s challenges, for sure, but aspies have a lot of strengths and major abilities as well.  Like all parents I worry for my kids futures, but they are each a blessing.

I believe one of the best things I have done for my children is give them siblings. I truly believe that and I wouldn’t change a single decision we’ve made when it comes to having children.  I’d have more in a heartbeat if we could afford it.

Together they play, learn to share, to learn empathy, love, hug, learn patience, wrestle, tease, argue, have conversations, forgive, learn the lesson of being an example, learn cause and effect, etc… All things “normal” families learn, all things Aspies need to learn, all things that will help them later in life. And something I’m grateful they are learning in the home.

In the end it’s no ones business but but my husbands and mine. We love our children, we love our family, we choose to get pregnant with each of our five children.  We love each other, our children and we focus all we can on our family. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Having Baby Boy has been one of those choices we will never question and will always be grateful for. The happiness he’s added to our family is immeasurable.